The past few weeks have been fairly tense in my world. We’ve recently had to let one of our team members at Creekside go. Not fun. There are a lot of emotions around this whole event. And I’m not really a big fan of emotions other than happy. I’m like a dog that way. Happy or sleeping are my too optimal modes.
The tension has been at work as we process what’s happened and what still needs to happen with who does what and how and for how long. All that fun stuff.
The tension is at home as my wife and I who share a friendship with this team member and his family process what’s going on.
The tension is with this team member, mainly because I don’t know what to say. (See previous comment about emotions).
I woke up this morning thinking about a song from the band Sixpence None The Richer. The song is Tension Is A Passing Note. If you want to listen to the song here it is:
Now I know this song is not earning me any masculinity points and I’m fine with that. I wanted to share this because tension can serve as something that you get hung up on or it can be something that transitions into something much more beautiful. This idea that tensions is a passing note comes from the idea of Suspended Chords. The sound of these suspended chords can create dissonance because it’s something that we are not used to hearing. Or it can create a tension that we wait to be resolved. And when that tension is finally resolved it can give the listener a sense of aural relief. Our ears are used to certain kinds of music and sounds. And these tensions notes raise our awareness that something is different.
People are aware when there is tension in a room. And if that tension is not addressed and resolved it can seriously damage relationships and organizations. If we let the the tension in the chord go on to long people will turn the music off. But if we let tension serve as the transition into relief then we learn to like the sound and we learn that tension is not forever and it can be resolved.
Who do you need to resolve tension with? What steps do you need to take to bring forgiveness and grace? This tensions doesn’t have to last forever. It can become something that makes your relationship more beautiful. Bring resolution.
Makes me think of this song as well.