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Called with a Question (Philippians 2:12 is something that keeps coming up)

Spiritually and emotionally healthy leaders lead from a place of personal security.

When leaders operate from insecurirty, challenges arise that risk personal and corporate success.

Insecure leaders are dangerous to themselves, their followers and the organization they lead.

Public leadership amplifies our flaws, under pressure.

Joseph Nowinsky — Wrote the first book about insecurity and it’s consequences.

• Insecurity refers to a profound sense of self-doubt, a deep feeling of uncertainty about our basic worth and our place in the world. associated with chronic self-consciousness, a chronic lack of selfconfidence and anxiety about ourselves and relationships. Doubt whether our own feelings are legitimate. fear of rejection.
• our sinful nature makes us ego-centric, the new man that God wants us to be is others focues.
• we are taught that we shoudl doubt our own strength and let the Lord’s strength build us. But that doesn’t mean that we should look at ourselves from an insecure perspective.
• Insecure people are self-concious always seeing themselves with a critical eye, easily wounded, and once wounded have a hard time healing.
• Insecure have expectations of themselves and others that are often unspoken.

Biblical Examples

• Moses — Exodus 4:10$14
• Gideon — Judges 6:13
• Paul — 2 Corinthians 3:16
• Saul — 1 Samuel various portions.

Dysfunctional Insecurity

If insecurity is to some extent unavoidable, then the key quesiton becomes this; at what point does insecurity become dysfunctional? I believe that when insecurity is so intense and lasting that it seriously underminse our self-esteem and interferes with our ability to enjoy life, tobuild and to keep satisfying relationships, and toacheive our career potential, it is dysfuntional.

Dysfunctionally Insecure people generally do not see it themselves.

Emotional Intelligence

Academic intelligence has little to do with emotional life. The Brightest among us can founder ont the shoals of unbridled passions and unruly impulses; people with high IQs can be stunningly poor pilots of their private lives.

Leadership Implications

• John Maxwell — the 17 indisputable laws of team work — Insecure people attract weak people.
• Patrick Lencioni — The Five Dysfunctions of a Team — all of the dysfunctions can be linked to insecurity
• Erwin Hargrove — Presiden as Leader — Nixon’s insecurities manifested themselves with a vengeance.

Pride is the root of insecurity.

Vulnerability is a key to success for working with people who are different than us.

the person who is not prideful will empower those around them to be the success. The first prayer for someone dealing with insecurity is to ask for help with our pride.

The Vulnerability of Being Sensitive in Ministry

Sensitivity is part of our temperment. People are born with a degree of sensiitivity that they carry with them throughout their lives. Insecurity is the result of subjecting an innately sensitive person to abuse, rejection, ortraumatic loss. the age at which these things happen, as well as how wever they are and how long they go on, is what determines how insecure a sensitive person will become.

Self-esteem and insecurity is different because you can have high self-esteem and still be very insecure, but you won’t be secure and not have self-esteem.

Are we in ministry to try to earn God’s favor?

Insecurity is rooted in the tenderness of our hearts. There is a vulnerability.

Moving From Insecurity Toward Security

Although the temperaments we are born with, including how interpersonally sensitive we are, are probably no very changeable, insecurity is something that a person can work to overcome. That’s because while sensitivity is something we are born with and will have forever, insecurity is learned. And what can be learned can be unlearned.

1. Change expectations for ourselves and others
   • work our salvation with fear and trembling
   • Dangers of tying strings to each other. Every time we tie an expectation to someone it complicates our lives. We need to determine which ones need to be clipped.
2. Learn to unlock emotions
   • We cannot hear from God if we don’t speak the same language.
   • You need to talk to somebody.
3. Refurbish our approach to interpersonal conflict and differences
4. Listen, Learn and Compromise

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Pay Attention

God speaks to us, so that we can become his mouth piece. — that is what truly pentecostal people are. They walk out of a service and live lives where God gives them on time information for wherever they are and whoever they are with.

If we are going to become his voice we have to go against our human nature. It’s not about us.

Overcoming our ego-centricness is the first step to becoming like Jesus.

Numbers 6:24-26

Turn Your Face — Look directly at them

Shine — To look with Joy

• Praying Specific Prayres
• Seeing Individuals in groups
• God sees them and he uses us to speak his word to them.

We need to listen to know where students are at before we speak.

Sit and listen and let the student ask where they should go. To Pay attention is to join them where they are and show them the way to where they need to go.

We need to shut down the distractions and let them know that we have no where else we would rather be.

Proverbs — Know the Condition of your flock. You can’t just see the flock you have to ensure that each one is is ok and cared for.

1 Samuel 16.1–14 – We are called to be Samuel to students. We are called to speak life to students and be a place where they can be safe and secure.

Acts 2:17-18 — Pentecost is supposed to unlease people

to Prophesy: Speak God inspired Words

God has designed us to be his voice to the world around us.

Our mission is to unleash God’s vision in students lives. God help me to speak God inspired words.

It’s not the pastor who is the only person who is to speak into the lives on young people. God has designed us to walk along students as we are.

Pray for God to give a word to the people around us.

Teenagers want the truth given to them straight.
Expanded Memory skills
language Mastery continues. –this is why myspace, blogs, phones, poetry, all start to be used because teenagers are beginning to use their verbal skills.
MetaCognition – the ability to think about thinking — They begin to think abstract thoughts. “the Bible Says” doesn’t always work for them. They want more abstract answers.

• Students are used to listening to adults who want to interact with them. We need to be willing to interact as well. (Come Let us reason together)
• “Get ‘em Talking” from YS
• Hypothetical Thinking – the ability to reason about propositions that may or may not reflect reality.
• Interest in Fantasy or Horror movies. because they can project themselves to other worlds.
• Good to ask what do you think type questions. Let people kick it around.

Deductive and Logical Reasoning — Reasoning that draws logical inferences and conclusions.

• Many students have not been given the chance to reflect or talk about what they have reflected on.
• Prayer Requests – Students can deal with mystery as long as we allow it to be mystery
• Difference between a dolphin and a fish.

Teenage Impulse control is highly under developed. They can think like adults but they don’t always reason out that their plan may be stupid. For example they don’t always reason out the implications of pulling a trigger
1. We want to be able to teach them how to think.

• formal — Sunday School, Small Groups, discipleship
• informal — Modeling, missions trips, etc.

boundaries can be drawn by adults, and impulses have to be contained.
Time Magazine Excerpts — May 10, 2004 – What Makes Teens Tick

The little things that we might not think matter that much, have huge impact on students. Things like talking with students, riding to church with them. We influence kids all the time.

How do we make these moments memorable so that they can pack it away and remember it. How can I help them see what they can’t see right now! Where is God in all this.
Ask what and how questions to find out how students are thinking.
bible memorization — memorize and ask

• What Does it Say? – Observation (shallowest level of learning)
• What does it mean?
• How does it work?

The Stupid behavior is momentary. We have to look at students for the overall.
Investigate the stupid behavior and then help them recover in a redemptive way.
“You can tell them to shape up and ship out, but making mistakes is part of how the brain optimally grows.” It might be useful to help them make up for what their brain still lacks by providing structure, organizing their time, guiding them through tough decisions (even when they resist) and applying those time-tested parental virtues: patience and love.”
Reflections on being a Teenager:

• What were three significant spiritual events in your life?
• name two people who had a spiritual impact on your life.
• Name a significant decision you made that was affected by your faith in Christ
• How old were you when you began to consciously live for Christ?

Transference – an act, process, or instance of transferring: the redirection of feelings and desires toward a new object; especially those unconsciously retained from childhood.

Confessions of a Mac Evangelist

Healthy Evangelism vs. Unhealthy Evangelism

Most of what happens evangelistically in the American Church falls under the unhealthy variety!

What Should Evangelism Not Be?

• Turn Or Burn
• Tracts – Read this Card I’ll see you later
• Making a person a project
• Soapbox evangelism — Street Corner Preacher
• Candy Coating
• Mixing the world with God to make him palatable
• World Will End People
• Flirt to Convert
• Making it an event
• One size fits all
• Your religion is wrong here’s why
• Christian = Amazing life.

If we are excited about Christ we will be excited about it. We don’t have to walk people through the 4 spiritual laws. We need to be actively sharing our faith in Christ.

Principles to Apply

1. Get out of our Office.

“Come to our church and hear about Jesus” – is not relevant to our culture.

We do a disservice to our students if this is how we present evangelism. Big events can work, but it can’t be the only method of introducing people to Christ.

2. You’ve Got to Show them the difference.

If people don’t see a difference in us then why would they want to switch.

We have to put what they want to see and this is built through relationship.

Social Activism is one way to show people the difference and show that we really care about people. When people see the church really care, then that is a genuine difference.

3. No Crashing

We need to have consistency in our spiritual lives.

Progress. People need to see authentic faith that works.

4. Have the Battery Charged

We need to go out in the power of God. Acts 1:8

The Holy Spirit transforms us to be “Christ” to people. Before they hear about Christ they need to see Christ in Us.

5. Go To People Who are Interested.

We need to invest our energy where there is fertile soil.

Circles of Friendship

Circle of Concern

Circle of Influence

Circle of Intimacy

Sometimes folks will come to you. they are fertile soil, Don’t waste it.

Jesus didn’t run after the rich young ruler — do we spend to much energy on the people who really are not interested, when we should be pouring into the people who are interested

6. Make sure you know the product you are selling.

have a working knowledge of your faith.

We have to show students what it is like to be light and dark

7. Create an Environment Where Questions are Encouraged.

Best Buy vs. Apple Store

we need to craft a welcoming environment

A student asking questions is on the right track

8. They Won’t Truly Know Until They Experience It.