My Best Friend

Tonight (Saturday Jan. 1, 2011) my parents were kind enough to watch our kids for the evening.  I know I’ve said it before, but Kathy and I are truly blessed to have so much family living so close.  So Kathy and I are home, just watching TV and chatting.

I love my wife.  She is a blessing to my life, a great mother, and full of wisdom.  I know that I married way out of my league.   Kathy is amazing!

Kathy I love you so much!

2010 in review

The stats helper monkeys at WordPress.com mulled over how this blog did in 2010, and here’s a high level summary of its overall blog health:

Healthy blog!

The Blog-Health-o-Meter™ reads This blog is on fire!.

Crunchy numbers

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A helper monkey made this abstract painting, inspired by your stats.

A Boeing 747-400 passenger jet can hold 416 passengers. This blog was viewed about 4,200 times in 2010. That’s about 10 full 747s.

In 2010, there were 72 new posts, growing the total archive of this blog to 959 posts. There were 4 pictures uploaded, taking up a total of 7mb.

The busiest day of the year was January 6th with 266 views. The most popular post that day was Yesterday all my troubles seemed so . . . .

Where did they come from?

The top referring sites in 2010 were facebook.com, ow.ly, twitter.com, thecreeksidechurch.org, and deumanfamily.blogspot.com.

Some visitors came searching, mostly for bonhoeffer life together quotes, life together quotes, how far did jesus walk, how many miles did jesus walk, and gentle as a dove and wise as a serpent.

Attractions in 2010

These are the posts and pages that got the most views in 2010.

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Yesterday all my troubles seemed so . . . September 2009
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Wise as Serpents? January 2009
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Deitrich Bonhoeffer – Life Together Quote September 2008

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Largest Churches October 2007
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How Far Did Jesus Walk August 2007

Thinking about Salvation

Yesterday after staff meeting Anh, Mike and myself were talking about the series that CSM is going through.  The students submitted a bunch of questions and Anh and her team are doing their best to answer them.  Great stuff!

One of the questions asked was something to the effect of, to be a Christian do you have to believe that Homosexuality is a sin?  That’s a pretty complicated question and I think most people would answer yes.

And I do think that Homosexuality is one expression of the sin nature that is found in all of humanity.  I want to be very clear on that.  I know this issue is very complicated and and usually very painful.  It’s painful for me because I know people who are gay.  I love them, and my heart is heavy for them.  I wish I could say that it was ok, but I cannot do that and stay faithful to the Bible’s definition of sexual immorality.  I can’t do it.  That’s where I land.

But the question that was asked is not so much about sin as it is about salvation.  So what does it mean to be saved?  And I’ve been thinking about this.  What does Jesus ask of us?

First, Jesus saved you from your sin.  Jesus died for your sin.  When you follow Jesus and accept the grace that he provided on the cross, he is calling you to turn away from your sin.  Are you following Jesus?  Are you letting go of your sin?  If the answer is yes, then I would say that you are a Christian.

Jesus is concerned about all the sins of the world, but for you and Jesus you need to see what your sin is and turn from it.  That could be lying, stealing, sexual sin, gluttony, gossip, greed, etc.  Know what your sin is and walk away from it.

Second, if you love people you will tell them the truth.  And the truth is that Jesus wants us to turn from sin and turn towards him.  All sin, from all people, can be forgiven by the Grace of Jesus.  Our job as Christians is the tell people about the grace of Jesus, and let Jesus do the work of tranforming hearts and drawing people out of their sin.  Your job is to tell them about Jesus.  You do your job, let Jesus and the Holy Spirit do theirs.

This is part of an underlying concern that I see in some church circles: naming other people’s sins.  Christian, do you have your sin all figured out and resolved?  Do you think you are helping Jesus when you yell at people because of their sin?  You can talk about sin and what the Bible says about sin, but if you start picketing people because of their sins then I think you make Jesus more angry than that person’s sin.

The Bible gives us guidelines for how to handle people who are blatantly sinning within the church.  The motivation must be love in all of these things.  But the Bible never tells us to protest the sin of those outside of the church. Rather, we are supposed to set an example for those who are outside of the church, so that they would actually want to get to know Jesus and find his grace.

Turn from your sin before you stone others.

Jesus wants your heart.  I don’t think he wants you to point out the sin in someone else’s heart.

one final image to help make sense of my ramblings.

I have two kids. Judah and Jocelyn.

They like to make a mess of my house.  They have toys all over the place.  That’s what kids do.  It’s fine.  However, sometimes when I ask Judah to clean up his toys, his response is not, “Ok daddy I’ll clean up my toys.”

Often he says this, “Jossy isn’t cleaning up her toys.”

To which I have to respond, “Judah, I will handle Joss.  I want you to get your toys cleaned up.”

When we busy ourselves with pointing out other people’s sins and faults, we are acting like my four year old son.  Jesus is talking to your about your sin, don’t try to deflect the issue to other people.  Get your heart in order before you start worrying about all the things that other people are doing wrong.

 

The real thing

This past Sunday I had the opportunity to speak.  My portion of Scripture was 1 Cor 16.5-24.  This chunk is Paul’s closing statements to the church in Corinth.  It’s kind of a hard type of text to preach from because Paul uses a lot of short ideas, expresses greetings and prayers, and stuff like that.  It’s hard to have a big idea so I was a little nervous about how this whole thing was going to go over.

In verse 9 Paul says: ” . . . a great door for effective work has opened to me, and there are many who oppose me.”

I keyed in on this verse for a time talking about how when you are called to something that does not mean it’s going to be easy.  I then followed my wife’s advice and talked about my youth ministry experience and the opposition that we experienced when we came on staff at Creekside Church.  This is not something that I have ever really talked about openly with the congregation.

These kinds of experiences are a challenge for me to talk about publicly because I don’t really want to deal with people feeling sorry for me.  But It was a very authentic time in the sermon.  And I think it helped people understand me better, but to also understand that their calling may be challenging and that’s ok.  Don’t bail.

The point of this whole post is really just to realize that people want the real thing.  And if you can embrace who you are, your story, and what God’s called you to do, people will respect that.  But if you try to cover up who you really are and put on a show for people, that’s exhausting and people will find you out.

Be the real deal.  Be authentic.  Tell the truth.

I have had more responses to this sermon and my story than almost any other sermon.  God honors vulnerability.  And God can use your vulnerability to encourage others with their struggles.

First Snow of 2010

I love snowy days.

Don’t tell my wife this but I actually don’t mind Michael Buble’ Christmas Album on snowy days.

Anyway, this is the first snow day of 2010 and we got some sledding in.  The kids are finally old enough to both enjoy sledding.  I’ve been mowing our side yard (which is basically all hill) for years in the hopes that some day my kids would be able to sled on it.  And it’s finally paid off.

The Power of Stories

One of the best parts of my job is talking to people who are new to faith.  Over and over again, the same thing that people say moved them closer to Jesus was when someone shared their story with them. That could be sharing a faith story during a Sunday morning gathering, or it could be shared over a cup of coffee between two friends.

You don’t have to be a trained professional to tell you story.  You don’t have to be a Bible Scholar.  You have to simply trust that God is up to something good, and everytime you share your story you get to be a part of his redemptive work in the world.

I just spoke with two people who felt God talking directly through them on Sunday through somebody sharing their faith story.  This person was nervous, but they trusted that God was going to do something.  And God did.  God is up to something good, and we get to be a part of it.  And the easiest way to participate in God’s work is by sharing the story of how he has changed our lives.

So . . .

Do you know your story?

Who are you sharing your story with?

Creekside we have a couple of powerful stories that will be shared over the next few week.  Check us out at thecreeksidechurch.org

Calibrate NW session 8 – Mark Driscoll

Fans and foes
     Fans idolize you
     Foes demonize you

When it comes to worship we have 2 options
1 – the creator
2 – the creation

Interesting stuff with dr. Drew and the mirror effect.

Celebrities model and people mirror. The celebrity culture makes people famous for no reason. The celebrity culture the goal is just to be famous. 

6 kinds of foes
1. Theological Critic
Accept that there will be conflict with them and just come to deal with it.  2. Success Jealousy Critics
Jealousy is just another word for pride. The answer is to serve them, become their ally, it can help change their heart.
3.  Misinformed foes
Inform them!  Clarify. The ear is a lot more forgiving than They eye
4. Personal Dislike
Ignore them because they can’t differentiate between style and sin
5.  Legit critics
Repent
6. Those who take offense on behalf of other people
Rebuke them. Those who are meddling and busybody are not helping they are causing more trouble

How to respond
1.  Practice selective hearing
2. Don’t let anger drive you to sin
3.  Turn your critics into coaches 
4.  Don’t respond on their terms
5.  Patiently await vindication
6.  Watch out for the fear of men – the fear of men is the idolizing of someone else’s opinion.  

You can’t need people and love people at the same time. 
God did not make us because he needed us he made us because he wanted us. 

What to do with this stuff?
1.  Talk a lot about Jesus
2.  Talk a lot about your sin and your struggles
3.  Work with conviction instead of guilt – guilt comes from people.  If guilty people get to play you your life is going to be craptastic
4.  Don’t get sucked into the best or the worst
5.  Don’t worship the people who idolize and demonize you
6.  Get your spirit filled time with Jesus
  

Calibrate NW session 7 – Judah Smith

Pastor at City Church in Kirkland, WA

Talking about Honor 
Matthew 20:20

If you want to talk about honor you have to start with humility

You can do all kinds of things that are nice to the past generation, but still not honor them.  Honor comes from the heart.

Jesus connects greatness to being a slave.  If you want to be first you need to think about yourself last.

When you are given a platform think first about how you can use that serve others.

We are all in ministry based on someone else’s equity.  We did not get here on our own.  How are we honoring those who brought us here.  

Honor begins with an honest assessment of yourself and on who’s platform you stand.  

We can’t all be Pauls we need people to be Apollos as well. Paul built and Apollos built it up.

Honor is adding value to others. 

A prideful man cannot honor he can only flatter

The reason some of us have a deficient view of who we are is because we don’t have a biblical view of who Jesus is.

Christians are always responders to the grace of God.  We cannot initiate it, we can only respond to it.